On May 1st, 2017 Kaig Lightner decided it was time to tell the players something that he had been nervous about revealing to them. He told them he was born a girl. In preparation for telling the players at practice that evening he decided to have it recorded, mainly to document an event that is unusual but also to have something to share with the parents and players who weren't at practice that night. He never expected it to ignite national attention overnight! In just a little over 24 hours the video that Kaig posted to Facebook captured the attention of Outsports.com who wrote the first story about Kaig's coming out. Shortly after that Huffington Post picked up the story. Within a week of the first article many local, national and international news outlets had picked up the story and nearly 110,000 views on YouTube in a month!
While Kaig is certainly appreciative of the positive support by some of these large publications he is even more appreciative of the outpouring of love from his players, their families and the club supporters. His intention in telling the kids was to be honest with them but to also connect with them on the complexities of discrimination. As a white person Kaig is very aware that he has been given many privileges in his life. But it is through his experience of being a "different" kid that he also became painfully aware of how it feels to be judged simply based on the way one looks. He wanted to make sure the current and future players in PCFC knew that he could relate in someway to them as kids from Latino, African and low-income communities. He also had the message that through being open, honest, and real with one another we build community. Kaig is aware that not all kids (or adults) have the support or resources to do all those things, but it is his hope that through organizations like PCFC that more kids will find the community support they might be lacking otherwise.